The Hardest Form of Forgiveness
If you’re anything like me, you are your own worst critic and toughest judge. It’s not easy to forgive and it’s even harder to forgive yourself when you know you’ve done or said something wrong. The good news is that it can be done and if you follow the advice below, you’ll be on your way to forgiving yourself, letting go, and moving forward with no regrets.
Start By Asking For Forgiveness
Sometimes we don’t get the opportunity to meet face to face with a person we need to forgive, or it’s a dangerous situation and meetings with the person is not possible. I don’t think it’s necessary that you have to meet with the person in order to forgive. Often just confessing to God in prayer and believing in your heart is good enough. Forgiveness sets us free and is a powerful thing that can help you move forward. If your relationship is safe by all means talk with the person.
Forgiveness and reconcilation are two seperate things, I’ll touch on reconcilation in a later post.
Try to Do Better In The Future
Forgiveness is meaningless if you just turn around and keep repeating the past. Thinking about the situation and how you can do better in the future, you’re taking a big step towards forgiving yourself and moving forward.
Facing your own mistakes and imperfections isn’t easy. Take some time, work through it, and look at it as a learning opportunity. Journal it all! Face your regrets, guilt, shame, and faults..let it all out..and choose to do better, you can’t learn and grow as a human being if you don’t first take accountability. Forgiving yourself and others is freeing so don’t wait another day.
Forgiveness is about letting go..surrendering it all to God..laying it down at the foot of the cross for Him to deal with as He sees fit. Unforgiveness only hinders our growth! Several months ago I walked through this exact situation. I had become offended and found some unforgiveness in my heart that I had to surrender to God. It was freeing and I encourage you to do the same.
Here’s a scripture reference in different bible versions:
Ephesians 4:31-32 (NLT) Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.
Ephesians 4:31-32 (MSG) Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.
Ephesians 4:31-32 (NKJV) Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be Kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
Which version do you prefer? For me, the Message version… 🙂
My friends, take responsibility for yourself, pray, walk forward in love, and stop looking back. I’ve specifically created a forgiveness journal to get you started on this journey. Today I am offering this free for all my new friends that subscribe to our email list. Click here to subscribe and get your free journal.
A simple prayer: God I seek forgiveness today. I ask forgiveness of all the negative and harmful words I have spoken about myself and others. I do not want to abuse myself in this way anymore. Help me transform my thoughts and give me understanding of how awesome you made me. Help me to change my habits so I use my mouth to speak hope and favor upon my life and the lives of others. In Jesus’ name.